Everybody has dreams. Everybody doesn't have aspirations. There is a difference. If you're unhappy with your situation then it is only natural for you to envision yourself somewhere better, its sort of a built in coping mechanism. Actually doing something to bring those visions to fruition is what transforms dreams to aspirations.
When you decide that you are going to start doing something to better yourself and those around you thats where goals come in. Goals should be set so you know you're on the proper path to achieving your aspirations.
Here's where most peoples problem take over. Getting the inspiration to do something is never the problem but igniting and sustaining that inspiration is. Think about how many times you have started something only to stop it a few hours, days, weeks, months later with unsatisfied results. A classic example is the whole New Year's resolution joke. Honestly how many of you are/have stuck to you New Year's resolutions? Not very many. Inspiration is no different than any hot news topic, fashion trend, or pop song. People become prisoners of the moment when inspiration hits. They do and say the right thing but once the moment is over the momentum stops and the dream fades.
Here's my solution...
first and foremost...FUCK EVERYBODY ELSE! Friends included. What you want out of your life is yours and yours alone. And while you should listen to the advice of those you trust never let someone tell you your aspirations are unattainable. Nobody is going to believe in you like you so why look to others for justification.
second. Be absolutely, 100 percent sure that what you desire is attainable. The way you do that is by being real with yourself. Do an honest evaluation of who you are, your strengths and weaknesses, how hard you are willing to work. These are things that nobody else can gauge (this is why I say fuck everybody else). But you have to be in a homeostatic mindstate. You can't be too high or low on yourself OR you cant be too high or drunk lol. Just take a weekend to yourself and really think about if what you want is really in your grasp.
third. Seek help. Take advice from wise people you trust. I have three suggestions.
1. Your REAL friends. The people you will keep it 100 with you regardless of the situation.
2. Someone you feel is more intelligent than you. Not smarter more intelligent.
3. Someone with experience in where you're trying to go. Self explanatory.
Listen to what they say and don't get offended if they don't agree with certain ways you're doing what you're trying to do. Simply because they are looking form the outside in and you're vision of you is quite biased. Remember this though...real friends try and help you get to where you want to go, bamma niggas try to hold you back.
fourth. Make a plan and stick to it. It the simplest part but the most difficult to adhere to. Make someway that you can remind yourself when you're beginning to deviate from the plan so you're consciously messing up and not subconsciously letting it slip away. You might have to modify your plan a little bit along the way but just make sure you ride that thang til the wheels fall off.
last but certainly not least. Put your faith in God and don't be afraid to fail. You can only fail by the standards of men, yourself included. When your faith is in God failure is inconceivable. You might not end up where you wanted to be but you definitely be where he needs you to be...real talk.
I hope these words reach you or a friend that might need them. Hopefully they can help you on the right path or off the wrong one. Mace Windu has spoken...the jewel has been dropped.
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